Was there a time when you asked for apologies but you weren’t forgiven?
Sometimes, due knowing each other for so long, we unconsciously do things that might hurt the other person. We have all the chance to ask for apologies but to be forgiven or not isn’t up to us anymore.
Science has gone a long way and hit the mark when it comes to asking apologies.
Researchers of a new study found the six ways that would lead a person towards being forgiven from the shortcoming committed against another.
According to the researcher, asking for an apology requires certain things: A person should express his/her regrets for doing such act; an explanation should be provided as well; and the person should know how to recognize his/her fault.
Furthermore, one must declare that he/she repents on what he/she has done and then offer to fix things up and finally ask for forgiveness from the one offended.
According to the lead author of the study, Roy Lewicki, apologies really work but the person should consider the points given and hit as many as he/she can.
In a recent study published in the journal Negotiation and Conflict Management Research, researchers affirmed that other points weigh more in cases that the person won’t be able to do all six.
Lewicki confirmed the highest pointer among the six tips. The acknowledgment of responsibility scores the highest – thus when one does this, forgiveness is really likely to be given.
According to the findings of the study, the second in the rank is the act of offering to fix things up. It gives the offended person the idea that the person is willing to correct what he/she has done.
Further, researchers found the request of forgiveness to be the least scorer among the six. We can derive that really, asking forgiveness alone won’t promise anything good.